Most of us have someone that we look up to and learn from. It can either be our parents, teacher or a mentor. If you haven’t found one, you need to start looking. In this post, I will share with you what I learn from my mentor Tony Robbins.
People go through phases in life and this determines a certain mindset that shall allow them to better manage their situation. There are 5 Steps to transformation:
1) Satiation – this is where people are ultimately “okay” with their lives until they’ve been in it too long it leads to 2) Dissatisfaction or sometimes, pain. You tolerate but eventually, you’ll reach a point wherein you say, ‘enough!’ and that’s your 3) Threshold. At this point, you begin to assess what’s wrong and this is a short time that you realize the truth or the 4) Inside opener and shall eventually bring you to your 5) Opening and compel you to act right away.
If you buy a new candy and you liked it, would you give it up? Does that mean you have to wait until you’ve gone through the steps before preventing potential toothache or addiction? If you like chocolates but has the early symptoms of diabetes, will you wait until you’ve reached your threshold before you take action?
The key is to manage through the phase and make sustainable choices. There is no problem if one is happy! Acknowledge the steps, understand them in order to realize what actions to take.
At which phase are you in your life? What do you need to change? What must sustainable choices be made to keep the momentum?
Tony Robbins designed the Rapid Planning Method (RPM), a strategy that is results-oriented rather than activity centered. Similar to the concept of decisions, when you teach your brain to think of outcomes, your brain functions and works on what must be done to meet it.
If you want to lose weight and find yourself unsuccessful, ask yourself instead, what is it do I really want? What is the result that I want? Will I lose weight overnight? Will I meet my goal in a week? The target is not the activity. The activities you do to meet your goal is a constant decision-making process – involving emotional, psychological and physiological aspects.
“People Mistake movement to achievement. Affirmations sometimes create delusions.” Knowing all these do not mean action. You have to make them happen and a conscious decision must always be made.
What are the outcomes you’d like to finish? Try to visualize these outcomes every day when you start your day. See how it impacts your productivity.
Tony Robbins said that there are two master lessons in life: 1) Science of achievement -making things happen/what you want and 2) Art of fulfillment -appreciation, and contribution. Life is more than what is happening to you as an individual. While you deal with your personal needs – you have to keep in mind that success is not a numbers game. You do not rewire or change the world, but you contribute to making it a better world to live in – not only for yourself but also for others. “You are larger than anything that could happen to you.”
What are your achievements in life? How can you use them to contribute to others?
There is always a reason why you’re at a certain mindset or why things are not completed or done. Why are you not happy with your job? It doesn’t pay me well, my boss is rude, I’m not sure. Why were you late? Because of traffic, my alarm clock did not sound, I’m sorry. There are all common and in many ways valid. Tony Robbins said, however that: “Claim to the Missing resources which may be true but it is not the defining factor. The defining factor isn’t resources but resourcefulness.”
Many people think outward – what others cannot do for them rather than what they cannot do for themselves. They blame their boss for not showing them what to do but they never really asked how to do it nor did they exert effort to clarify what was needed.
What resources should you maximize? What have you failed to do for yourself in order to be successful?
Have the right perspective. Remember that you are a leader. When you maintain a home or try to prepare a decent meal on a tight budget, you’re a leader. You are a leader when you teach your children to respect life and the elderly. You are a leader when you guide another person who doesn’t know what to do. You are a leader when you serve. Recognize that you are. “Change happens when you be yourself.”
Tony Robbins shared the Mandates of leadership 1) See it as it is but not worse than it is. Do not make excuses on what not to do. 2) See it better than it is. Raise your standards and take the opportunity. Remember your musts against your shoulds. 3) Make it that way.
What type of leader are you? Who do you lead? What is the situation? How can you raise the standard? How can you make it that way?
Be grateful for nature and for the benefits you do not have to do anything for. Appreciate that you have worked hard and reaped benefits. Be grateful for the small victories over your battle against negative emotions and be thankful for what you have – your talent, your leadership, your art and your skills.
Grateful people are happy people. You cannot be grateful and be angry. You cannot be grateful when you’re busy judging others. You cannot be grateful if you cannot forgive yourself.
Being grateful also creates a positive energy that is both physical, mental and spiritual. You cannot thank someone without verbalizing or shaking their hands. You cannot be thankful for air if you pollute it or for water if you’re not saving it.
“The shifts inside of you add the real value.”
It is also easier to love and be happy when you’re grateful. These emotions are critical to change, success, and life. “Love is the strongest fuel and emotion that can drive a person into action.
Do you love to work because it gives you the money you need to survive? Do you love your bodies when you expose it to potential illnesses? Do you love your customers when you only give them attention when they’re buying your products? Do you love your partners because they love you back?